Always remember that children, and teenagers are no exception, need a good adult role model to help to shape them and encourage them to behave in an acceptable manner. Shouting and swearing at your teenager is not setting a good example and it is very likely that they will respond to this type of behaviour in the same way.

Although the sanctions for dealing with unwanted behaviour in older children are different from those in younger children they are still necessary. When setting ground rules following these simple steps:-

• Talk things through initially with your teenager. Instead of setting your own rules try negotiating with them. Explain what you would like and ask for their opinion. If possible, meet them half way so that they feel that you have taken their views into consideration.

• Let your teenager know why you feel there is a need for certain rules, and explain what you hope these rules will achieve.

• Make it clear that if they break the rules you have both agreed you will apply sanctions.

There will be times when, as a parent or carer, you wonder where you went wrong and you may even find yourself disliking your child’s behaviour, however it is paramount that you remember that your child is growing up and experiencing life and as such will at times respond inappropriately. They are finding their way and going through massive changes which is, of course, all part of growing up – let them make mistakes and learn from them – be there to help and advise them.