Creating Independence

Combating Abuse

One of the most disturbing aspects of all types of abuse, which cannot be ignored, is the stress that it places on the child. Exposure to violence, injury and trauma on a regular basis will result in a child becoming emotionally numb, craving high risk dangerous experiences and possibly self harm.

Children who are being abused may show behaviour that is not part of their normal pattern or is out of character. All adults have a duty to protect children from abuse and it is absolutely vital that, if a child confides in you that they are being abused in any way, you take what they are saying seriously, listen to what they have to say, without prompting and act on what they have told you. Following these simple rules will help you to deal with the situation:-

Listen but do not ask questions. Let the child tell you things in their own time and in their own words. Never prompt them or put words into their mouths.

Reassure the child that you believe what they are telling you.

Let the child know that they have done the right thing by confiding in you and that you will help them to sort things out.

It is very important that you do not:-

Let the child see that you are shocked or disgusted at what they are telling you no matter how distressing their disclosure may be.

Promise the child that you will keep what they have told you a secret. It is vital that you tell the appropriate authorities if you are to put an end to the child’s suffering.

Prompt the child in any way even if they are struggling to find the words to express themselves. It may be argued, if the abuser is taken to court, that the child has been helped or encouraged by you to say the things they have disclosed.

What to do if you think a child is being abused

Professionals:

Everyone who comes into contact with children has a duty to safeguard and promote their welfare. If you work with children and families you should:-

Be aware of your organisations procedures for promoting and safeguarding the welfare of children in your own area.

Know who to contact within your organisation to discuss any concerns you may have.

If, after discussion, it is felt that there is still cause for concern then a referral should be made to social services and followed up, within 48 hours, in writing.

An initial assessment will then be required.

The procedure followed after this initial assessment will depend on whether any urgent action is needed to safeguard the child.

The Government has produced some guidelines for people who come into contact with children through their work. This is available to download here. (outside link)

Public:

If you have any suspicions of child abuse you should report it to your local social services department. They will follow up the report, visit and talk to the family; they will not tell the family who made the call. Social services can be contacted at any time day or night, the numbers can be found in your telephone book or on your council’s website.